- that on Attitude of Gratitude non-conference approved material is allowed
- to love it when Pam gets in a snit about the behaviors of some newcomers
- that although I got ravenous yesterday afternoon, and it made me want to be irritable, I kept quiet and got through it
- that God could and would, and has, and will
- for the joys this day is certain to bring
OUCH!
We are growing up when we come to see that gossip feeds on our own insecurity and self-deception. When we are unwilling to part company with gossip, we devise subtle ways to keep it in our lives. We can gossip by steering the conversation to a topic that is likely to bring revealing comments. We also gossip by reveling in lurid accounts of others' sins and failings. We should even ask ourselves if we are gossiping when we "discuss" another member who is not living up to our ideas of true Twelve Step standards. This is often prefaced by the remark, "I don't want to take Joe's inventory, but….." We cannot live freely and happily if we practice gossip in any form. The practice may be hidden, but it leaves us with guilt, fear, and shame. We cannot gossip and be completely trustworthy and reliable. ~Walk in Dry Places
8 comments:
bite me.
but with love. ;)
OUCH is right...very convicting! thanks for the reminder. It's lovely too when gossip begins or finishes with the expression "bless his heart!" I hear that a lot in this area:) Very sad indeed. thanks.
I read this entire post, from beginning to end.
Pam's fiesty today. I've often found gossip to be an avenue taken when one is unhappy with one self, feeding the flames to find something lacking in someone else.
One of my favorite saying is before you point a finger at someone else, point it back at you and ask why the need. (Hugs)Indigo
Amen to the Walk in Dry Places comment. I'm dealing with a resentment now about some gossip that involved breaking anonymity. I'm dealing with it by acknowledging that I'm pissed but still....
i like that go is, and will and can, or whatever it was - very cool and hopeful
alanons can be the worst with the gossip in my experience. I am actually moving on to another sponsor now and this is one of the reasons. I attended a convention this weekend and we had a workshop on sponsoring. Talk about timing..
Namaste (and thanks)
Let's get a cup of coffee, have I got the Dirt for the day.
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