There is a war of control in human relationships because we were domesticated to compete for the control of the attention. What we call love--someone who needs me, someone who cares about me--isn't love; it is selfishness. How can that work? Selfishness doesn't work because there is no love there. Both people are starving for love. In the sex they have, they taste a little love and it becomes addictive because they are starving for love. But then all the judgments are there. All the fear. All the blame. All the drama.
Today I am grateful...
- for the two lines from my sister in an email "I continue to be amazed. Something as simple as trusting in God and letting him handle it."
- for the generous friend that arranged for me to have a massage today to help my back
- that the generous friend and I are going tonight to see the movie Conversations with God
- that trust and faith make life so much easier to live
- that I am willing to work a program that only works if you work it
If you go into a partnership to have drama, because you want to be jealous, because you want to be possessive, because to control your partner's life, you are not looking for fun, you are looking for pain, and that is what you are going to find. If you go into a relationship with selfishness, expecting that your partner is going to make you happy, it will not happen. And it's not that person's fault; it's your own. ~today's quotes from The Mastery of Love ( a Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship) by Don Miguel Ruiz
6 comments:
Good stuff about relationships.
I had to ask myself about my own motives in getting back with - you know who. I found, for the most part, that my motives are whole and healthy. I know that I no longer need to be in an intimate relationship to be happy. But I need to be happy to be in an intimate relationship.
Make sense?
Nice friends!
I need a message!
I see you,
JJ
waaaay good stuff on what love is and relationships...
also hope your back gets better enjoy your massage and movie
Is that something you read or wrote Scott? Nevertheless, I have read it 3 times, sat back and thought about the message at hand. A great conversation starter I say with some self discovery to be revealed.
What your sister wrote is beautiful, and I think it is fabulous that you have a relationship with her.
I also, " continue to be amazed. Something as simple as trusting in God..." That is of course when I actually get out of the way long enough.
SC, both are from The Mastery of Love.
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