What we are striving for in recovery is a healthy attraction to people. We allow ourselves to be attracted to who people are, not to their potential or to what we hope they are.
The more we work through our family of origin issues, the less we will find ourselves needing to work through them with the people were attracted to. Finishing our business from the past helps us form new and healthier relationships.
The more we overcome our need to be excessive caretakers, the less we will find ourselves attracted to people who need to be constantly taken care of.
The more we learn to love and respect ourselves, the more we will become attracted to people who will love and respect us and who we can safely love and respect.
No matter who we find ourselves relating to, and what we discover happening in the relationship, the issue is still about us, and not about the other person. That is the heart, the hope, and the power of recovery.
We can learn to look for whats good for us, instead of whats good for the other person.
4 comments:
if good things come in 12's, where's the other half?
Great pic! Where do you do your shopping? Did you use a coupon? Do they have more in stock?
I'm with DG on this one, deathly afraid sums it up. Still too unhealthy myself to venture into a relationship!
this gives you something to think about doesnt it
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